I have always come across friends who would love sharing their relationship thoughts and problems with me. Not that I chose to be nosy in their relationship but perhaps they trust me as a good friend and maybe it feels good just to voice out problems to a good friend of theirs. I don’t know, but I admit I sometimes do feel weird about this, I could be a love doctor in the making I guess, wukakaka.
Now, the one thing in common I’ve always heard my friends complaining is their partners ain’t what they think they are. Hmmm... tell you frankly, to know a person well is when you live with them in the same house. You would eventually see for yourself the good, the bad and the ugly in your partner. From the toilet seat’s placement to the dirty dishes hanging around in the sink for weeks. From then on, both of you gotta learn how to compromise, give and take responsibilities which keeps the stay-in relationship going. If you succeeded living together without a scratch on your body and soul, congrats, mission one accomplished.
The other common problem that I myself experience is; the dummy partner. Normally, the dummies are the guys, the usual ‘dungut’ case. When I say dummy I don’t really mean that they are stupid but more likely senseless and … dummy, like a mannequin! Most guys just ain’t romantic, they aren’t particular people, and they just don’t remember dates and the little sweet things girls do for them. They just don’t, which makes them heartless beings. But do not fret, this is what yin and yang is all about, all God’s natural creation. Men are born as such and this is the part where a woman is important in a man’s life. We, being the forgiving beings; the gentle, patient and understanding creature, shall slowly educate men the art of romanticism and treasuring. Since all of us know men are dummies, we shall not hint but tell them straight into their faces, gently and with love of course. And if they still don’t get the picture, slap only laa apa lagiiiiiiiii… wukakakaka, joking joking.
Then there’s the flirtatious partner. This would be a one hell of a hot satisfying partner if he or she restricts it to you and you only. If this applies to every living creature he or she sees, then my dear friend, it is time for you to bring out the whip and show your partner who is the ‘daddy’ or ‘mummy’, whichever applies. Voice out of what you think, tell your partner you hate it and tell him or her it hurts. If your partner still ignores you, try again and again and again till you feel like punching them in the face or for this case, the crotch. If it doesn’t work, then my dear friend, it’s time to do the ultimate. Either you do exactly what your partner did to you, or just dump him or her and get on with your life. No point wasting time with a slut, it will only waste your devotion and years for them.
For a person who is low esteem in looks; like me, you gotta go searching what is your best special selling point and flaunt it all the way. It may be your kindness, that special smile of yours, your gentle touch, your deep emotional concern for a person, your respect for beings, your boobies, your big hidden ‘Joe’, anything! Remember, this has to be real and not faked out. Nobody likes a fake, I personally hate it myself. No matter what, just be yourself, it is not always about the looks one had to have. It’s all about the mutual feelings you and your partner share, the inner you that attracts.
Not everyone shares similarity in interests, not every married couple has the same interests between them. I and hubby do have a few similar interests, but not all. I personally think that this adds in more choices and fun in your life, instead of doing same old things over and over again between you couples. Life would have been very much dull. For example, hubby used to love board skating, I don’t, but I don’t mind following him around and learn something new, take a look at what’s it all about, and have fun! Or let’s just put it this way, music for example; he likes hard alternative music, and I think it’s annoying, but I don’t mind listening to them on the player once in a while. In fact, I had taken likings for a few songs myself. Did it do any harm to learn how to respect his personal likings? Nope, instead, it added extra options and fun to my life. What I’m trying to point out here is, a couple doesn’t have to share similar interests, so if you and your partner do not have any, don’t have to worry, just open up for more options and fun.
Men are born with egos, not that women don’t, they do, but not like men’s. They can be irritating at times, but that is just them. Don’t be afraid to tell them off at their face. They need to learn how to control the machoness in them. Tell them it’s not a turn on and it could affect your perception towards him, and perhaps the relationship.
Guys, seriously, you need to learn how to control your ego. It is not macho and it is a totally turn off. If you’ve had many past relationships which didn’t last you long, seriously, it must have been your ego. Push your ego a few level down, be understanding, give the same respect your girl gives you and I’m sure all things will be fine at the end of the day.
As for the girls, I know it is the new century where men and women are equal within each other but remember this, naturally, it is not. Having that thinking in your mind will not make you a superior woman but will only make your life a devastating one. Plentiful of successful working women out there with such thinking conquers but leads a sad life. I’m sure you’ve met one or two along your way, their love life is just another sad song. Same goes to the men, money and power is nothing when it comes to love.
Let’s us talk about money too girls, how can we ever leave out money in a relationship, money plays the biggest role in every couple’s relationship, so some said. Yes, without money life is just boring. You can never buy that extra entertainment, fun and status to adorn your life with when you’re broke. But how long can money buy love for each and everyone for you? If buying you designer bags and clothes is love to you, then I’ll envy you. If buying you big houses, luxury cars and air tickets to
Girls, life ain’t bout money. You girls know this yourself, youth will eventually go away one day. Unless you’re married to some rich guy, yes, you’ve secured financial in your life but have you secured a real husband in your life? Most of rich guys are, I’m sorry to say, big bastards. They flirt and seek for young fun, and as for you, pray hard he won’t throw you out from the house soon.
To tell you the truth, I've been drafting my blog posts from my office when I'm free. My office is internet-less at the moment, and I'm pretty busy going out of the office bringing in sales for the company, hence.... I rarely blog nor Facebook or MSN that much. Just bear with my long winded posts once in a while, it's pretty sad when you have no one to talk to you, wukakakkaka... sigh... Well, till another long winded post coming up, taa~!!!
p/s: can't wait for our small mini road trip down to Sitiawan.... SEAFOOD HERE I COME!!!!!! Oh how much I miss Sitiawan's seafood. :P